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InHappiness Testimonials
We’ve included a small selection from thousands of testimonials we’ve
received from program participants since 2008.
Testimonials are sorted by theme:
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INDIVIDUALS: Stress, Happiness, Health, Energy, Getting More Done,
Meaning in Life, Depression, Mood Swings, Anger, Trauma and Grief,
Resilience, Self Esteem & Confidence, Relationships with Children,
Social Relationships.
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WORKPLACE: Workplace Mood, Stress and Burnout, Workplace
Relationships, Team Dynamics.
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AIDS CARE: Healing Trauma in AIDS Orphans. Resilience in AIDS
Orphans & Caregivers.
Individual Stress
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My stress was paralyzing me. I was miserable but felt powerless to
do anything about it. I though it was normal - just how life is if
you're not on TV.
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Today I am stress-free and building a happy new life.
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Thank you InHappiness!
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I thought that I thrived on workplace stress, that I was coping with
all my stress. When I started InHappiness I quickly realized how bad
this stress was for my health and performance.
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It's gone, I'm happy, and I feel so much lighter now. Thank you.
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My job as fund raiser is full of stress - if I'm not successful, people
will lose their jobs. InHappiness really helped me reduce my stress
and perform better.
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I was a stress-mess! Today - no stress, no problems. Now everything
is sharp!
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I was stress junkie but now I take life with a smile.
Individual Happiness
I am so much happier. Three of my friends who are in emotional crisis
tell me how much better they feel after seeing me. My happiness
lifts their spirits.
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After 16 years of living in a self-pity party, I'm back - relaxed and
happy.
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My manager told me last week how happy I look.
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I look and feel younger now. I’m active and happy.
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“Mom, we’ve never seen you so happy.”
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Everyone is seeing a difference in me.
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I feel 100 times more positive and I’m coping with everything
whether it’s a problem at home or at work.
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InHappiness has changed my life. It’s given me a better outlook on
life in general. I'm happier now.
Individual Health
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I used to get lots of headaches and migraines. I still get a few but
seldom need to take tablets now.
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I am diabetic and was on 1000 mg of medication twice a day. After
InHappiness my blood sugar started dropping at my 10am checks. I
couldn’t understand it, so I went to see my doctor. He stopped my
medication – my diabetes is gone. My blood sugar is 5-6 all the time
now. This is just so wonderful. Thank you.
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My hypertension is gone - after years of medication my BP is normal
now.
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I am still diabetic but my sugar is down from 15-17 to 6.4-8.3.
InHappiness has changed by life.
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I measure my BP at home in the mornings. My hypertension just
dropped. It was very high, and used to be 150-170, but now it is
normal at 120-116. These days 130-138 is high for me. Thank you.
Individual Energy
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In the past, after seeing so many patients I was so tired I didn’t
want to go back to work tomorrow. Doing patient files gave me a
headache. Now, I see patients, do the paperwork, and go back to
see more patients. I'm seeing 50% more patients and feeling much
more energized and happy.
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I have more energy. Before InHappiness I often felt heavy like I just
wanted to sleep, but that’s gone - it's over.
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I’m energized, I feel light.
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By mid-afternoon I just wanted to go and lie down in a dark room. I
was emotionally and physically exhausted - most days I avoided the
kids, skipped dinner, and just stayed in bed and slept. Now I'm full
of energy - I work till five then go home, cook, and have fun with
my family. It's a new me!
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I was in my twenties but I felt old - always tired. Not any more.
Now I'm gymming and swimming and going out with friends. Life is
good.
Individuals Getting More Done
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I used to come to work at 6 to get an early start, work till 6 or 7 in
the evening then take work home, and I still wasn't coping. Now I
come in at 8, take my lunchtime to relax, leave at 5, and never
take work home. And I'm getting more done! I have a whole new
life after work. This is real life change.
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I'm amazed - I'm getting so much more done.
Meaning in Life
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I have been blessed with 50 years of a happy, productive and
successful life. I never thought much about it, but I knew that
other men were not blessed in the same way. Last year I
experienced an InHappiness training through my community
organization. It opened my eyes as to why I have enjoyed such a
good life, and how it could be even better. I rushed off to visit my
grandchildren to teach them the InHappiness lessons so they can
have the best life possible. The wonderful thing is that they
understand it. They get what I tell them and they are changing.
Now I'm asked by other parents to talk to their kids and even visit
schools to speak to the children. It's important that we learn how
to recognize and manage our feelings at a young age - imagine how
much better their lives will be.
Depression
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I was in deep depression. Life wasn't worth living and I bought pills
to end it. A friend took me to InHappiness. I didn't want to go but
she insisted. Thank goodness! The first thing I did was to go home
and flush those pills. It's hard to describe the change in me, but I
am a new person. I am free and life is good. Yay!!
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Sometimes the depression comes back for a visit, but I only let it
stay for an hour or two now - not weeks or months like before.
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After a decade of depressive episodes I have been depression-free
for 18 months. Thank you InHappiness. You saved my life.
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My depression was leading me towards suicide. I actually bought
the pills. After your workshop I flushed them and rebuilt my
happiness.
Individual Mood Swings
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I used to have mood swings. Sometimes in the morning I felt like
not talking to anybody and I cried a lot. Since InHappiness I’ve
slowly changed. I can see I’m not the same person as before. I'm
much happier now.
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I used to get angry quickly and it would last in my heart. Now if I
get cross I quickly forget.
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Before I was moody and very emotional. Now I can see the change
in me - I feel released.
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I’m not so serious any more. I laugh a lot more. I have fewer
headaches. I have more energy.
Individual Anger
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I grew up in a tough neighborhood and soon learned the best way to
protect myself and my young sister was to take the initiative and
be aggressive. I started fighting and became good at it. I was soon
a real bully. It carried through into adulthood - every time I felt
stressed I would explode. I shouted at clients and my anger was
legendary. Road rage was a problem. I pushed people off the road,
even drove into other cars on purpose. Most weeks I got out of my
car to physically threaten other drivers, and sometimes I beat them
up. After a two-day InHappiness workshop my anger disappeared. It
just vanished. Two years later and no road rage - I drive carefully
now. I don't get angry. I haven't beat anyone up since that
workshop. I'm a new person thanks to InHappiness.
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I was famous for my anger and rage, with daily shouting and weekly
explosions. Now I'm relaxed and smiling - I let things go. No
outbursts for months. I can't believe the change in me. Life is so
much better.
Trauma and Grief in Individuals
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I suffered a lot when my father died. I experienced it as a deep
hurt and thought I would never get over it. For years I used to sob
every time I heard his name. After practicing InHappiness I
experienced a release of my pain. Now, I smile when I hear his
name and can talk freely about him without crying.
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A month after I lost a stillborn daughter I was depressed and had
lost my will to live. I was considering taking my life. I went with
friends to an InHappiness workshop. When I heard the group would
be laughing I wanted to leave, but my friends asked me to stay and
just sit and observe. Even sitting on the sidelines I became totally
involved in the workshop. I joined in the laughter and suddenly
experienced a powerful rush of emotions and release. The process
lasted 20 or 30 minutes - I could feel tremendous changes
happening in me. I was left feeling tired but happy - my pain was
gone. I realize now that I was traumatized, and that this moving
experience was the release of my trauma. By lunchtime I was
healed. My energy and enthusiasm for life was back. I still feel sad
when I think about my little girl, but that extreme pain is gone. I
have so much to live for. I am happy again. Thank you.
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As children we were abused by our father. My mother denied that it
happened and we came to hate her. Even after my father died none
of us could forgive Mom for allowing it to happen. I realize now
that it made me bitter and poisoned my life for more than 30
years. InHappiness finally helped me to recognize and understand
my feelings and how they were pulling my life down. I was able to
forgive my mother and reconnect with her - we have a beautiful
friendship now and my life has taken wings with an amazing new
energy. The best part was forgiving myself and discovering that life
could be so much happier.
Resilience
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Before the program, I had great difficulty coping with the death of
my patients, often slipping into depression for a week or longer.
Recently I received word that my HIV-positive brother had shot and
killed himself and his girlfriend. I traveled home to arrange their
funerals and bury them. Two days later I was back at work and one
day later I was back in our daily laughter therapy sessions. I felt
sad, but I didn't allow the deaths to pull down my mental fitness,
health, and happiness. I'm amazed at how this program has made
me stronger. Four days after burying my brother I was over it -
living happy and working at full capacity.
Individual Self Esteem & Confidence
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For sixty years I lived in the belief that I was worthless. My twin
sister was the pretty one, the intelligent one, the lucky one. I
believed I was destined to be miserable and unhappy. InHappiness
completely changed that. It was hard to believe what was
happening to me, but suddenly a lifetime of sadness and self-pity
just evaporated. I realize now that I am also a beautiful person who
is wonderful in my own special way. I've gone from being a
wallflower to playing an active - even leading - role in my church
and community. My new self-confidence has energized me. I feel
like a teenager - I'm happy and full of energy always busy with new
projects. I have only one regret - I wish I'd found this program fifty
years ago!
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My church is important to me, but I always made excuses when
they asked me to get involved in projects. I was scared I'd mess up.
Now I'm on the committee and helping to run church events. I even
speak in front of groups now - something I never believed I would
ever do. This program has absolutely changed my life.
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I always hung back, and avoided eye contact with others - I tried
not to be noticed. I didn't believe I was worth noticing. I thought I
was a bad person. InHappiness transformed my life. I'm confident
now and I believe in myself. I realized it was all in my head, and
InHappiness helped me to change my head. I've made so many new
friends, and life is full of fun now.
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In the past I gave up easily. Now I persevere.
Individuals: Relationships with Children
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I used to fight with my child and say words that were not nice to
her. Now we laugh together. Whenever I become cross or unhappy,
she starts the laughter and my stress and my anger evaporates.
We're much closer and happier now.
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My kids wake me up to laugh with them, then again before school,
when I get home, and before dinner. It's wonderful - we're so much
closer now.
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This has taken my relationship with my children to a whole new
level. We laugh, we play, and they tell me so much more now.
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I was often grumpy, getting home stressed and tired and chasing
the kids away. Now I look forward to getting home and spending
time with them. They de-stress me with laughter, then we talk and
play. If I fall back into my old grumpy ways they just start the
laughter exercises and I burst out laughing.
Individual: Social Relationships
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I was a grumpy, moody person. I avoided people and didn't make
friends. I’m a lot more positive and confident in my social life now.
I hear them say “Wow! Is that the same woman?”
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When I saw other people talking I was convinced they were saying
bad things about me. I stayed at home to avoid other people. Now I
realize I was being silly.
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I’m a lot more positive and confident in my social life now - I go
out and participate in my church social groups and have fun with
others.
Workplace Mood
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The mood at work is much lighter. We feel better. This is now a
happy place.
Workplace Stress and Burnout
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I was suffering from burnout and heading for disaster. Now I'm
happy and enjoying my work. It's amazing.
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I thought I thrived on workplace stress, but now I feel so much
lighter.
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I'm stress-free and loving every minute of my work now.
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My job is still high stress, but now I'm enjoying it.
Workplace Relationships
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For the first time I feel that my staff like me. Their attitudes have
changed. They see me as a person, not as a manager any more. Our
relationship has really improved. Before there was a lot of
negativity when I gave them tasks - that’s gone now. They are much
more positive in taking on new challenges.
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Work relationships really changed. Cooperation and communication
are much better now. We're helping each other to do better.
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People who had major personality clashes for months or years are
now cooperating with newfound respect, consideration and even
friendship.
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The change in my staff was incredible.
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In my highly-stressed team we experienced frequent workplace
conflicts. I spent much of my day resolving conflicts between staff
members who came to me in dispute - typically 4 to 6 cases a day.
Within two weeks there was a huge drop off in these cases. After
three months I was seeing only four cases a month. This represents
a huge reduction in my workload and means that the team is
getting much more work done.
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There’s an absolute change in cooperation. There’s a stronger bond
and better relationship between all the team. The bond between
us has grown. We’re standing together and working together as a
team. We’re all more energetic, and that helps us get through the
day and week.
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When people get upset, they bounce back and get over it much
more quickly now. Before some staff would stay upset for days or
even weeks - now they bounce back in a day or less.
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I didn’t communicate much with management before. I was afraid
to be close to the management. Now I can talk to them - I’m not
scared anymore.
Team Dynamics
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There's an absolute change in cooperation. There's a better
relationship between team members. There's a stronger bond
between us. We stand and work together as a team. We all have
more energy, and we're getting much more done. I think we're all
enjoying work a lot more.
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The new cooperation is wonderful. We are finally working as a
team. If we have a problem, we solve it between us - we don't take
the problem to management. We are like a good family now.
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Within two weeks, the way my staff interacted with each other
changed radically. Before they ran to me with all their problems.
Now they sort problems out among themselves in a positive way. It
really has built a wonderful team spirit.
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There's a big increase in help. Staff members voluntarily help
others where they see help is needed, even when it means doing
things outside the scope of their own job.
Healing Trauma in AIDS Orphans
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You have given these damaged children the gift of a normal happy
childhood. You have transformed their lives. Thank you. Manager:
Orphan & Vulnerable Children Care Center
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Wow, the children have changed! There was a little girl who never
laughed or smiled and now she’s laughing. The kids enjoy it, they
even lead the exercises. It’s fantastic. Before some kids were
reserved and quiet, they came from home with lots of stress - now
they start laughing in the bus in the morning. And on their way
home they are laughing - you can see beautiful smiles. It has really
helped them. Teacher: Orphan & Vulnerable Children Care Center
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The children are much happier. After the daily therapy they are
elated - they are loud and happy and sweet and they giggle. They
have a new confidence to express themselves in loving ways and
feel they have freedom to do so. They’ve much more loving. I get
lots more hugs and kisses than before. It’s really impacting on them
in a positive way. Manager: Orphan & Vulnerable Children Care
Center
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We have a boy in the daycare center who had not spoken for three
years. He was an aggressive bully, beating on other kids and
breaking toys - even hitting the teacher. Within weeks he stopped
the bullying and now he is a happy healthy child, laughing and
playing with the other kids. Counselor: Orphan & Vulnerable
Children Care Center
Resilience in AIDS Orphans & Caregivers
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When we picked up the children in the morning they were quiet,
sad, and withdrawn - we knew they experienced stress and
sometimes abuse at their foster homes. Even if we got them
laughing during the day, as soon as it was time to go home they
became visibly stressed and withdrawn again. Soon after we
introduced the program, the kids bounced back. They'd be laughing
and happy coming to the bus in the morning, and stay laughing and
happy leaving the bus in the afternoons. It was an amazing change
- they were no longer stressed and sad and were coping with
conditions in their foster homes - shrugging off the stress that had
been dampening their spirits.
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Before we started the program we asked the caregivers the cause
of their biggest stress. It was patients dying - especially the
children. Many were attending three funerals a week of patients
they had become close to and attached to. They reported that
their grief from a patient's death seriously affected their mood and
ability to work for one to three weeks, depending on how close
they were to that patient. Two months after the program was
implemented, the same caregivers were bouncing back - and
reported themselves fully recovered and able to work at 100%
capacity - within a few hours to two or three days in cases where
they were especially close to the patient. The caregivers had
developed Happiness Intelligence. They had become fiercely
protective of their own happiness. They understood the negative
affect that grief was having on their happiness and on their mental
fitness and physical health. They were sad about their patient, but
had changed their behavioral processing and were bouncing back
ten times faster than before.
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